Abandonment
The thought of leaving something and never coming back for it is a really strong thing. Abandonment can be difficult to deal with and understand. People can have all kinds of reasons for abandoning something or in Reyna Grande’s case someone. Reyna Grande’s book “The Distance Between Us” deals with Reyna’s early childhood and having to deal with abandonment and make sense of all these feelings. Reyna is sent to live with her Grandmother when her father and mother go to The United States in search of better work opportunity so they can give the children the life they always wanted to give them. The feeling of Abandonment is hard on Reyna and her two siblings. She finds it hard to understand why her Mother and Father would leave the kids and feels sadness and resentment towards them. Looking at both sides of the abandonment taking place I could see the parents side of making this sacrifices to better the families future, well at the same time understand a child but not just a child anyone one who is the victim of abandonment way of thinking. Thinking that your parents left you because you were only second best or were not good enough. I was very fortunate too never go through the experiences that Reyna Grande has went through but I have dealt with my own feelings of abandonment. Being born a twin I always had someone to depend on and go too weather I was feeling happiness or sadness. This bond was made since birth. My parents not wanting us to become co-dependent on each other decided that we should spend one summer apart. This was the way of having us learn and find our individuality. That summer was one of the longest summers of my life. Living with my cousin’s family that summer I was enlisted in a summer program for children who wanted to be active or do activates. I was a very shy boy growing up and when it came to making friends I was often approach by people I was never one to venture off and make the first conversation. I would be friendly and say hi but I when spoken too but I could never quite be myself. I felt like my parents were punishing me because of some weird idea in the head that made them think this was helping me. Slowly I did eventually make friends and ended up have a great some full of stories to tell my parents and my brother. I can see now what my parents were trying to do and understand the mindset they wanted me to develop but as a child I just found it hard to see and grasp the bigger picture. When it came time for me to return back home I was met with lots of questions like how was your summer, did you enjoy yourself, and the obvious one did you miss your brother? Which of course I did but to be honest I also missed my time over there. This was a great learning experience and life lesson.
The thought of leaving something and never coming back for it is a really strong thing. Abandonment can be difficult to deal with and understand. People can have all kinds of reasons for abandoning something or in Reyna Grande’s case someone. Reyna Grande’s book “The Distance Between Us” deals with Reyna’s early childhood and having to deal with abandonment and make sense of all these feelings. Reyna is sent to live with her Grandmother when her father and mother go to The United States in search of better work opportunity so they can give the children the life they always wanted to give them. The feeling of Abandonment is hard on Reyna and her two siblings. She finds it hard to understand why her Mother and Father would leave the kids and feels sadness and resentment towards them. Looking at both sides of the abandonment taking place I could see the parents side of making this sacrifices to better the families future, well at the same time understand a child but not just a child anyone one who is the victim of abandonment way of thinking. Thinking that your parents left you because you were only second best or were not good enough. I was very fortunate too never go through the experiences that Reyna Grande has went through but I have dealt with my own feelings of abandonment. Being born a twin I always had someone to depend on and go too weather I was feeling happiness or sadness. This bond was made since birth. My parents not wanting us to become co-dependent on each other decided that we should spend one summer apart. This was the way of having us learn and find our individuality. That summer was one of the longest summers of my life. Living with my cousin’s family that summer I was enlisted in a summer program for children who wanted to be active or do activates. I was a very shy boy growing up and when it came to making friends I was often approach by people I was never one to venture off and make the first conversation. I would be friendly and say hi but I when spoken too but I could never quite be myself. I felt like my parents were punishing me because of some weird idea in the head that made them think this was helping me. Slowly I did eventually make friends and ended up have a great some full of stories to tell my parents and my brother. I can see now what my parents were trying to do and understand the mindset they wanted me to develop but as a child I just found it hard to see and grasp the bigger picture. When it came time for me to return back home I was met with lots of questions like how was your summer, did you enjoy yourself, and the obvious one did you miss your brother? Which of course I did but to be honest I also missed my time over there. This was a great learning experience and life lesson.